Letitia Williams » Recognising When to Reach Out for Therapy

After struggling with my own challenges for some time, I finally reached a point where I had to admit that I needed help. Almost reluctantly, I decided to enter therapy. With a background in psychology, I had always felt that I could handle things on my own. I’d tell myself that my issues weren’t “bad enough” to warrant professional help, downplaying the impact they had on my overall wellbeing. But eventually, the struggle became too real—it started affecting my experience of life. It was getting harder to fend off those mental monsters by myself. So, I picked up the phone.

Everyone Has Their Battles

No one is immune to challenges—not even those who seem to have it all figured out. Even coaches and therapists have their own struggles. Yet, some of us choose to seek help, while others suffer in silence. I want you to know that you can be among the former sooner rather than later. Reaching out can significantly improve your mental health. Studies show that nearly 20% of adults in South Africa need mental health treatment, but less than 5% actually seek it. The choice to seek help is often something entirely within your control.

The Connection Between Seeking Help and Emotional Intelligence

Choosing to work with a mental health professional is closely related to your level of emotional intelligence (EQ), which is your ability to understand and manage your own emotions and those of others. Surprisingly, people with high EQs are more likely to seek professional help when needed. This shows that allowing yourself to be vulnerable isn’t a weakness; it’s a strength and a sign of emotional intelligence. So, if you see yourself as emotionally intelligent or aspire to be, you’re already on the right path.

Don’t Let Fear Stop You from Getting Help

If you’ve never been to therapy before, the idea of sharing your thoughts with a stranger—even a professional—can feel intimidating. It might feel unnatural or even uncomfortable. But it’s necessary for your wellbeing, especially if you’re at risk for a mental health disorder. And if you don’t have a social circle that supports therapy, it can be even more challenging to reach out. Remember: there is no health without mental health. Therapy can improve your overall wellbeing.

When Is the Right Time to Reach Out?

When asked whether to seek therapy, I often use this as a basis for my explanation: Imagine your mental health on a continuum from “-5” (where mental health concerns impact daily functioning) to “+5” (where you feel mentally well, thriving, and fulfilled). “0” represents a neutral state—not struggling, but not flourishing either. If you often find yourself between 0 and -5, it’s time to consider reaching out.

That said, I’m a firm believer in preventative care. I recommend engaging in therapy regularly, attending more frequently when you need it and less so when you don’t.

Don’t Wait Too Long to Make That Appointment

If you had a plumbing problem, you’d call a plumber before it caused extensive damage. The same goes for your mental health. Don’t wait until your problems overwhelm you. Pay attention to the signs early on, and seek help before things get worse. The sooner you act, the better the outcome will be.

References

Ciarrochi, J. V., & Deane, F. P. (2001). Emotional competence and willingness to seek help from professional and nonprofessional sources. British Journal of Guidance & Counselling, 29(2), 233-246.

Craig, A., Rochat, T., Naicker, S. N., Mapanga, W., Mtintsilana, A., Dlamini, S. N., ... & Norris, S. A. (2022). The prevalence of probable depression and probable anxiety, and associations with adverse childhood experiences and socio-demographics: A national survey in South Africa. Frontiers in Public Health, 10, 986531.

Priory Group. (n.d.). Signs you should see a therapist. https://www.priorygroup.com/blog/signs-you-should-see-a-therapist